He knows how to affect the outcome. He says, I know how to do this. I can do this one and and I know how this is going to come out, right? And I can make the decision about how I'm going to make this come out, so I can do this and know, Oh, guess what? Aren't I great, and you're going to be totally responsive to me. And I know that it's, it's completely clear in my head, right? I know exactly what's going to happen here, yeah. And so that's empowering, and that's actually even though the other is a very loving gesture for the dog that is a more loving gesture for the dog, that's an easier thing for them to understand. So if you have a dog that tunes you out, and then you because you talk, talk, talk, talk, or other, there are other ways that you can get it right, tune you out, and then you suddenly throw something at them, and they don't do it because they've learned to tune you out.

When we choose to be caretakers of animals we make a contract with them. That contract says you will not put your dog into an uncomfortable/unnecessary situation. What we mean by that is if we are in public with our dogs and somebody wants to pet or interact with your dog, it is your duty to know your dog well enough, and read your dog’s body language to determine if he is comfortable with the person and wants to be petted.